Many Alzheimer’s caregivers say that the “most
difficult time for caregivers is the very first stage of Alzheimer’s disease.”
I really agree with this. My mother had Alzheimer’s. I had taken care of her
for 14 years in our house. Ironically, the progression of Alzheimer’s disease
may make caregiving easier.
I am writing this story about my mother when
she was on the first stage of Alzheimer’s disease. It makes me blue even now.
It is still painful to me to remember those days.
On the first stage of Alzheimer’s disease, a
patient may lose things easily. The patient becomes upset and insists that they
“lost an important thing” almost every day. The family members are not aware
that the patient already has Alzheimer’s. They look for the thing for a long
time almost every day. They need to sacrifice their time and effort. These are
huge.
Many things create trouble when we lose them.
Key is one of them.
My mother keeps her important papers like
bankbooks in her drawer, and she locks it. In those days, she insisted she lost
the key almost every day. In most cases, I could find the key. But sometimes,
we couldn’t find it. I needed to call an unlocking company to open the drawer.
It costed $200 every time. It was expensive.
The key expert had never showed me how to open
the lock. When he would open the drawer, he would ask us to “go to the next
room.” I wished I knew how to open the locked drawer. It would have made things
easier for us.
I solved this problem when she lost her
bankbook. I made spare keys. When she lost her key, I put the spare key in the
room. Then I let her find it. I needed this charade because I didn’t want to be
suspected by her.
That key was not a special key. Making spare
keys was easy and economical. I made 10 spare keys.
A few days ago, I checked the unlocking
company on the internet. They are offering a more affordable price now. They
can unlock a lock for only $40. If I were living with my mother now, I could
say to her, “Please lose your keys as much as you want.”
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